This is one of those very random blog entry that I will do, but I’ll give it a try. 🙂 I miss writing so much and I have been praying for so long that I will be able to have time for an in-depth reading of God’s word so I will be able to write a good article. But for now, let me share a little bit about me. 🙂
The other day, I had a very very random chat with my ‘Nanay’ (our mentor in PSA). I was so bored that time and I don’t know what happened that we end up talking about guys. I was able to mention that I find Chinito guys really cute. So Nay Rhea, being so supportive, willingly searched for guys on her facebook friends list. She was able to pick TEN guys from her list and told me a little bit about their lives. I find one of them interesting, but I’m not that really into him.
That random conversation with Nay Rhea made me realize something…
I’m very very choosy. 😂
Those ten guys were all cute so you can’t say that I am more concerned with their looks. I find Chinito guys attractive, but I also have many Chinito friends that I am not interested with. 🙂
That very random conversation with her made me ask myself what is really my ideal guy. I don’t have a very clear answer before, but now, I think I already know.
#1 Dependent but Independent
Complicated, I know. But I want a guy who is completely dependent on God — someone who worry less of what is ahead and simply say ‘If the Lord wills…’
I do believe, whatever a man tries to do with his life, the final decision will always be from God. I want him to rest in that truth — that God will always be in-charge of everything. There is peace in knowing we don’t need to worry of what is ahead of us because God will take care of it.
Although a God-dependent man is attractive, I also get easily amazed with guys who can live life without a spouse or a family of his own. Everyone of us are sometimes guilty of idolizing marriage to a point that we see singleness as an ineffective place to grow. If singleness makes us more hungry for marriage than hungry of having a great relationship with God, then we are doing it wrong.
I want someone who doesn’t need me in his life because he is too contented with what God has given him, yet still choose to have me and take care of me because he knows I’m worth it. I find that kind of person more attractive than someone who is eager to have a woman in his life and see Christ not enough for him.
#2 Patient but Intolerant
Everyone of us dreams of a very patient spouse. We are all imperfect and we all hope to find someone who will love us despite our imperfections. I need an understanding man in my life, but I also want him to be a defender of God’s Word and intolerant of heresies. I want him to be someone who will stand against errors inside the church and be concerned more of what pleases God than what pleases people. I want him to always be on the side of the truth when it comes to the Word of God, and lead the people to the truth rather than deceive them with what may look good for us yet unpleasant in God’s sight.
#3 A Servant yet a Leader
Every woman wants a strong man who can lead them to do the right things and decisions in life, but I believe you are never an effective leader if you don’t have a heart of a servant. Nothing is more sweet than someone who is willing to serve God and lead his family to love and respect Him.
#4 Weak but Brave
I don’t expect my him to be strong. Anyone can fool others that he is mighty but it takes a lot of courage to admit that he is not strong enough to handle things. But I believe people who confess of their weaknesses are the real strong people. We are most of the time not confident of sharing our weaknesses, but I find it admirable when a man says he cannot handle some things on his own.
#5 Sees Life to be Worthless apart from Christ
It’s easy to find people who are handsome, intelligent or wealthy, but I want a rare gem — someone who see those things as worthless if Christ is not the center of his life. It’s easy to find someone who can give me material things, but I want someone who will boldly say, “All I have is Christ.”
Not Everyone’s Ideal Man
I admit, this guy is so hard to find. I even believe it is close to getting extinct. 😂 Most men even find the thought of following Christ to be less manly, but I’d rather wait for that ‘not-so-manly guy’ and be called ‘choosy’ than settle for someone who doesn’t love and follow Jesus Christ. It’s not worth it to compromise and settle for less.
To be honest, I am contented with my life right now. I don’t need a man to save me for I am already saved by Jesus Christ. I don’t need to feel loved because I am loved by the God who made the universe. I don’t need to be found for I am not lost anymore. My Shepherd looked for me and now I am found. I don’t need a man to know my worth for my worth is found in Christ. But if marriage is for me and God thinks I can be a help to someone, so be it. 🙂 I’d be more than willing to obey Him. 🙂
I thank Nay Rhea for that funny and very random conversation. If it wasn’t because of her trying to find me someone I can probably like or eventually date (Haha!), I will never realize that my ideal Man is not so ideal when it comes to the standards of this world, but I know he will always be worth the wait. 🙂