If there is one topic that I want to ask my brothers in Christ, it’s this:
Why do most of you get attracted to unbelievers (and end up marrying them)?
Just yesterday, one of my friends told me that he confessed his love to an unbeliever. I asked him that question and he just told me he doesn’t know, so he said, he can’t answer in behalf of all Christian men if he cannot even answer why he get attracted to an unbeliever.
His situation reminded me of one of the topics I want to ask my brothers in Christ.
Since I was a kid, I’ve been moving from one city to another, and this trend has always been the same. Most men inside the church marry an unbeliever instead of marrying someone with the same faith. They always have high hopes that it will all go well, and their partners will believe in Christ soon. On the other hand, single women inside the church keep on waiting for a godly man, yet these Christian men mostly don’t consider them for marriage. So this scenario end up either these single women have no other option but to marry an unbeliever as well or not marry at all. This ‘trend’ has sparked many questions in my mind.
Are the women inside your church not physically attractive?
Does physical attraction play a vital role on how you choose your spouse? I guess you’ll answer ‘yes’, but is it really hard to find the people inside your church or people with the same faith as attractive? Does it have anything to do with how we dress?
Is it true that you find women inside your church as ‘Out of your league’ or ‘too religious for you’ that’s why you won’t consider them?
Is the faith of women inside your church not attractive for you? Is it really intimidating when they are more mature when it comes to their faith?
If you are a Minister or an Elder, how do you address this issue?
I know we have been warned by people not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, but what if most of your men get attracted to unbelievers? What do people mostly advice to them? Is this issue has something to do with maturity? Does it alarm you when Christian women are not always highly valued when it comes to courtship?
There are many single women inside our church who feel ‘unaccepted’ because of this. I’ve heard many women gets so upset when Christian men don’t find them attractive.
There was a godly woman in our church who told me that no one from the faith liked her when she was single. So when an unbeliever courted her during her early 30s, she said ‘yes’ and they got married soon after that. She said, she has no other choice because there’s no one who asked to marry her. She’s beautiful, by the way (if you’re going to reason physical attraction). She is active in church. She is also intelligent and has a stable work.
Could this ‘trend’ be the reason why most singles are Christian women? Do men always feel that way towards women inside their church?
I have so many questions regarding this. So please, if you are a Christian Guy reading this, can you comment below or make a blog post regarding this issue?
I would appreciate all your answers. This question has been on my mind for years.
God bless you all, and have a nice day. 😊