The world has taught us many things on how to love and be loved. It taught us for a very long time that love is indeed a great feeling. Some perceive it as a force that changes their life while others say that it is inhumane not to ever feel love.
But little did they know, how you describe love or perceive love say much about you and what matters for you. And in the end, it will lead you on how you run your life.
1. Love is NOT Reckless
The world defined love as a reckless feeling. Some say it makes you act crazy and do things you can’t stop from doing or perhaps make decisions that can ruin your life. Contrary to that popular belief, the Bible did not taught us that love is reckless. Since the beginning of time, God has showed us a love that is perfectly planned. Even our deepest thoughts cannot fathom God’s sovereignty that despite the chaos that we are sometimes in, He is still able to make things work out according to His will.
2. Love Does NOT Follow the Heart
Our hearts were never designed to be followed, but to be led. Our hearts were never designed to be gods in whom we believe; they were designed to believe in God.
If we make our hearts gods and ask them to lead us, they will lead us to narcissistic misery and ultimately damnation. They cannot save us, because what’s wrong with our hearts is the heart of our problem. But if our hearts believe in God, as they are designed to, then God saves us (Hebrews 7:25) and leads our hearts to exceeding joy (Psalm 43:4).
Therefore, don’t believe in your heart; direct your heart to believe in God. Don’t follow your heart; follow Jesus. Note that Jesus did not say to his disciples, “Let not your hearts be troubled, just believe in your hearts.” He said, “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me” (John 14:1).
― Jon Bloom,
Contrary to the popular saying, “Follow your heart”, true love does not let us follow our reckless and deceitful heart. The Bible says the heart is deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9), thus, it must not be the one that governs over our decisions.
People tend to believe that our hearts are capable of making decisions that can make our life great. We disobey our parents or disrespect those who give us godly advice just for the sake of following our heart. We sometimes think that what we did was right because that’s how we feel about it. We follow our emotions without praying for it, because that’s what our heart is telling us to do. But love is more than just a feeling. Our emotions and our logical reasoning always fall short in describing what love really is.
The Bible has commanded us to follow Christ (Matthew 16:24), and perhaps in loving, we must still follow Him and not whatever our hearts has commanded us to do.
3. Love is NOT Blind
The world’s love is blind – in either seeing the wrong things or perceiving what is truly right and worse, it embraces what God doesn’t love. Their definition of love contradicts to love itself. But true love does not neglect what is wrong but clearly see what is wrong yet by God’s grace, He has given us the Spirit to make us willing to correct it. Love does not tolerate sin or let you shout on the streets for a love you always thought will make you free. Love sees sin and repents. It doesn’t look at sin like it’s nothing. Love knows that sin is an abomination to God, thus, it wholeheartedly surrenders it.
4. Love is NOT Selfish
The world has taught us to love ourselves – to do things for yourself and make yourself happy. For them, loving yourself is like freeing our soul. But the Bible warns that there is a path that seems right for us yet it leads us to destruction (Proverbs 14:12). We sometimes fall short in defining freedom that we see it as something related to having self-indulgence. But Christ told us that we must deny ourselves (Matthew 16:24), and loving yourself the way the world does it – without God – is like building an idol that does not answer your prayers. It’s like resting in the thought of you being free, but deep down, you’re still dead with a heart of stone that must come to life.
5. Love is NOT Stupid
Love is not stupid. It is wise. But to love with wisdom is a little strange for the world. It seems like loving has been lowered into something that is not capable of making decisions rationally. They’re quick to say that it’s the heart that says we are in love and not the brain. But loving someone with detached relationship to our thinking is not loving at all. True love is not just about what you constantly feel. It is also feeling something and still be sane. It’s about making concrete decisions despite the impulse that our heart wants us to do.
The Love They Cannot Understand
If you love like the world, you follow how they perceive love and how they make decisions. They follow their hearts and do what they want even if it means it doesn’t glorify God.
Since the fall of man, our description of love falls short too, to what it should look like. We ran away from what is good and embraced the fleeting pleasures of sin. But through Christ, we were taught what love is and how to use it.
The fullness of love can be found in the Author Himself – God. He is the Author of the purest kind of Love. It is even His attribute. We don’t need to search for it in another person, place, career or our worldly wealth as if those are the ways that can satisfy our soul. The rich description of Love that was described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 should be our guide, and Christ must be our sole anchor for it.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Indeed, the world’s perception of love is too small that we sometimes forget that Love is immensely magnificent and through Christ, we can now freely embrace it. Through Him, we are able to see and perceive love the way that God wants it to be – not reckless, not blind, not selfish, follows Christ and truly wise.