Five Reasons Why I am NOT a Feminist

Since I was young, I’ve heard many things about feminism. From their fight against legal and cultural inequalities to their fight for selfish desires. I live in a world that forced me to become a feminist just because I am a female. They said if you are a strong, brave and independent woman, you must be a feminist. I disagree. Feminism must not own the terms “strong”, “brave”, “independent” because there are women out there who are like that yet they won’t consider themselves as feminists.

I used to celebrate the pride that comes with feminism. I used to believe that women are all the time oppressed and we are victims by some sort of unequal rights in our society, but when you go out from that circle, you’ll realize that it’s the feminists who are the bullies. When they stand for what they think is right, they force others to believe them, and when you think quite differently from what they believe, they’ll accuse you of being someone who is selfish. They even call women who are not feminists as people who betray their own gender and if you’re a man who doesn’t support their rights, they’ll accuse you of being an ‘abuser’ or something else. They give us these evidences for us to be convinced, yet they won’t let us speak because they think they are always right.


To begin this issue, I just want to be clear that although I don’t consider myself anymore as a ‘Feminist’, I still highly respect the first wave of feminism during the 1900s. Through that movement, most women today enjoy legal equalities. It also shed some light into what women can do in our society. However, as the time goes by and all those rights were already discussed in our favor, I’ve seen a lot of distortion in feminism. We now see women who don’t know what they are fighting for anymore — raising those banners in our streets and show the world that they are victims. I think it’s enough to say that some lost the essence why feminism was born. They’ve lost it while trying to gain the image of ‘superiority’ unconsciously. Some said it is a ‘large umbrella’ that’s why we must not generalize. But as a Christian, do we need to take this stand? As a woman, do I really need to become a feminist? Can we, as Christians, embrace something that doesn’t reflect all our beliefs?


Although I could provide political and social reasons why feminism is not the answer, I’d rather take my reasons to a much higher ground and what mirrors my core values. It’s hard to bring up reasons apart from what I truly believe.

I cannot convince people who are not Christians. They have their beliefs different from ours. So instead of sparking a debate among people outside the Christian circle, I only desire to address these reasons to Christian women who still take the stand of being a feminist. 


Whenever there is pride, there is sin. It is pride that pushes feminists to stand for what they think is right. But the Bible says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death (Proverbs 14:12).” A sinful man only thinks of himself or for the feminism’s case, they have tendencies of thinking about female’s benefits alone – not even the benefits of their kids. They support evil and selfish things such as abortion. In their eyes, they think they’re right. They want women to have control over their own life up to the extent of gaining control over a life of someone that is living inside their womb. They’ve forgotten that their right for their own body is not the same with the child’s right to live. And by clearly weighing those things, you can conclude that what pushes feminists to fight for those rights is their selfishness.

You should seek to protect life at every stage. The assault of human life at every stage — whether abortion or euthanasia — is an assault on the concept of mankind as bearers of God’s image because abortion and euthanasia employ a logic that life in the embryonic stage or in the final stage is not as valuable. This lie is from the pit of hell.

(c) The Study Bible for Women


To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.”

The first time I’ve read that passage, it suddenly made me think of feminism. It was clearly said, “...Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.” In other Bible translation its says, “desires to control your husband (NLT).” I believe it pertains to submission – something that is not welcome in feminists’ vocabulary. For them, only ‘weak’ women will submit to their husband. Only ‘weak’ women will not stand for their right to lead. But the passage clearly tells you that a feminist’s points are rooted from God’s judgment. Submission has been designed by God for our own good yet sin corrupted the headship of a husband over his wife and turned what God designed as a blessing into a burden. That’s why we cannot reason all our Christian values to a Feminist who only believes herself. We must reason with the Gospel because what we are dealing with is not just a society or a movement but a group of women who clearly shouts with their unregenerate hearts.


Since Feminists are driven by selfishness and man’s sinful nature, we see women hate the core values of Christianity such as the following:

  • Denying yourself – Selflessness is not what Feminism wants. They want people to look at them and listen to them. They want to be as much as possible at the center of everything. They’ll use their ‘victim card’ and drag the issues of rape culture and oppression just to make their point. They are easily insulted with any jokes about women and put to shame everyone who fights against them. Such attitude clearly shows that humility is not what feminism wants. As a Christian who has been called by Christ to deny yourself and follow Him (Matthew 16:24), are you still going to embrace a belief that truly contradicts Christ’s command for us?
  • Love for homemaking – One of the greatest fight that feminism wants is for women to have a career apart from becoming a full time homemaker. They perceive being a housewife as a prison cell that degrades the essence of a woman. They want the world to believe that when you go out and find a job and leave your home, you are a woman with strength and dignity. Such belief is contrary to how the Bible praises the strength of a woman when it comes to homemaking. Proverbs 31:10-12 and 25-31 praises women solely for how they treat their family. Proverbs 14:1 even says that, The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Women who embraces their role inside our home has been described by the Bible as wise. Your career or your job doesn’t define who you are. There is more to life than just be driven by your desire for money. For me, raising godly kids is the greatest achievement any woman could ever have.
  • Childbearing and being Pro-Life – Feminism has always been a movement about what they call “Women’s Rights”. For them, women have the right not to bear children or kill their children. Such belief truly contradicts not just what the Lord wants us to embrace as a woman, but generally as a Christian. Abortion is murder. Not wanting to bear or raise kids is contrary to what the Lord wants us to do. Such beliefs are clearly not what the Bible teaches us. They have wrongfully described those rights to what ‘excellence’ should look like. They perceive power over their own life as the true source of happiness, but embracing the world’s definition of success is not what God wants us to do. 
  • Modesty, Sobriety and Chastity – There’s this ‘hate’ that feminists throw at people from the Christian Circle who embraces Modesty, Sobriety and Chastity. Sometimes they address people who practice those things as ‘hypocrites’ even if they haven’t done anything against the Feminists. And since feminists want to control their own lives, they hate any remarks about being modest in our speech or even in how we must display ourselves. They hate the thought of staying pure and living a holy life. They cannot understand that Christians who are doing those things are doing it for God. But even if how much we explain these things to them, they can’t understand it because just like what I said, we are dealing here people with unregenerate hearts. 


“It is a naive sort of feminism that insists that women prove their ability to do all the things that men do. This is a distortion and a travesty. Men have never sought to prove that they can do all the things women do. Why subject women to purely masculine criteria? Women can and ought to be judged by the criteria of femininity, for it is in their femininity that they participate in the human race. 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman

Feminists call for equal rights, but most of the time they disrespect any man that they come across. They have strong hate for men who are disrespectful or men who see women as an object not a person. But for me, even if I also don’t like those men, feminism won’t still be my ticket to know my worth.

Men who are clearly misbehaving is just as wrong as feminism. Thus, we must learn to understand that both of them clearly need Christ. And to just address it as social issue apart from Him, we will be just running around an unending circle. We won’t be able to point them to the Gospel which what they clearly need.

Feminists also shout for equality, but where did they truly get that idea?

The idea that women are equal to men is not a feminist idea; it’s a Christian idea. The apostle Paul said it long before Elizabeth Cady Stanton or Gloria Steinem when he taught us that in Christ there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female (Galatians 3:28). And he said it nearly two millennia before the women’s rights people came along.

The feminists try to take credit for something that is the fruit of the gospel, working its way into culture like yeast through a loaf. We need to stop letting the feminists act as if they somehow achieved our equality. Unconverted societies never treat women well, and that is extraordinarily easy to document. Women being treated with respect is fruit that grows on one kind of tree, and that tree is a cross.

(c) Rebekah Merkle; Throw Like A Girl

God is the one who established our roles. Let’s try to go back to the Scriptures regarding that:

  • Adam was created first and then Eve (Gn. 2:7; 1 Timothy 2:13; 1 Cor. 11)
  • Eve was created as a helper for Adam (Gn. 2:18, 20)
  • Adam named Eve (Gn 2:23, 3:20)
  •  Adam’s name was used generically in reference to the human race (Gn. 1:26)
  • Adam was given his authority by God prior to Eve’s Creation (Gn. 2:15)
  • God spoke to Adam first after the fall (Gn 3:9)
  • Adam, not Eve, represents the human race (1 Cor. 25 and Rom 5)
  • The curse brought a distortion of previous roles, not the introduction of new roles (Gn 3:15-19)
  • The creation order was embraced and affirmed in Christ’s redemption (1 Peter 3, Eph. 5) 

Reference: Study Bible for Women

God established these distinctions, and just because we have a different role from men, it doesn’t mean we are inferior. As Christian Women, we must learn to respect what God has established, and not desire what God has given men. 


Just the fact the Feminists want to control their own life, it is already an abomination to God. Such longing reflects our sinful nature and our sin (and the pride the comes with it) is what separates us from God.

Nothing is so likely to keep a person out of heaven, and prevent them from seeing Christ, as pride. So long as we think we are something we shall never be saved. Let us pray for and cultivate humility; let us seek to know ourselves correctly, and to find out our place in the sight of a holy God. – J.C. Ryle

All those things that I enumerated above root from this: the desire to steal what is owned by God. Feminism denies God. They do not honor His name, and they don’t respect the things He highly values such as life.

This rebellion mirrors what the Bible said in Romans 1:19-25:

For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse. For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures. Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them. For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.


“To understand the meaning of womanhood we have to start with God. If He is indeed “Creator of all things visible and invisible” He is certainly in charge of all things, visible and invisible, stupendous and minuscule, magnificent and trivial. God has to be in charge of details if He is going to be in charge of the overall design.”
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman

As followers of Christ, we cannot embrace something that goes against Christianity itself. You cannot profess that you are  a Feminist and still worship God. You must make up your mind and choose to embrace the role that God has given you.

So instead of embracing a movement that does not mirror all our core values, let’s choose to take a stand that glorifies Christ and not us.

It’s time to realize that there is beauty in becoming a good wife and a mother. We must not learn to despise what God has taught us to value more. We must learn to find refuge in the promises of God and not what the world has promised us to give such as fleeting rights that raise the banner of pride.

It’s time to embrace who you really are in the eyes of God. Turn your back from desiring the things that harms your soul, and make it truly known how to live a life that worships God.

“We are called to be women. The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, but the fact that I am a Christian makes me a different kind of woman. For I have accepted God’s idea of me, and my whole life is an offering back to Him of all that I am and all that He wants me to be.”
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman


11 Comments Add yours

  1. Richard Brittain says:

    Interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing.

    1. KrizSummer says:

      Thank you for reading! God bless you. 🙂

  2. esorenneiluj25 says:

    Strong arguments!

    I also don’t want to be called feminist, even though, I am into the equality of men and women. I hate men who objectify women but the truth is, women also objectify men, or worse, women objectifying themselves.

    I am more into the biblical womanhood, not the worldly one.

    Thank you for this enlightening stand! 🙂

    1. KrizSummer says:

      Thank you, too, for reading! God bless!

  3. Kristin Joy says:

    Thank you for eloquently posting how I feel. It is nice to see there are others out ther striving to be a bibilical woman. God bless you.

    1. KrizSummer says:

      Hello there! Thank you for reading this! God bless you. 😊

  4. Jeanette says:

    Thank you for this! I am a Christian woman who agrees completely.

    1. KrizSummer says:

      Hello. Thank you for reading this. 😊 God bless you. 😊

  5. Ivy & Em says:

    Interesting perspective! I consider myself a feminist but it’s interesting to hear where non-feminists are coming from, although I do think the only way to get out from underneath traditional, sexist social expectations is through feminism. But I totally get your point of view and that it’s not for everybody.

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