Last week, I received a text message from a friend. She asked me some advice on what Medical School she should choose. She’s a bit scared to make decisions because for her, every choice leads to a different outcome. Maybe she was trying to tell me that her life will be different for the next years depending on the school she will choose.
I smiled while reading her message. She reminded me of myself two years ago. I also had the same problem before. I don’t know what school to choose. I’m scared to make decisions because I thought that my choices will have consequences for the next years in my life.
Our lives look like we have different choices in life. We believe every single action we’ve done in this lifetime is an effect of the choices we made. In fact, we always make choices. We have to choose what food we should eat in breakfast down to what channel on TV we should watch during night time.
For an ordinary person, life looks like a path that has many crossroads, and what you choose will absolutely affect the rest of your life.
But there is something depressing in that kind of thinking. When you are already on the middle of the way you’ve chosen and you realized that you’ve chosen the wrong way, you’ll start to live your life in regrets and worse, you blame yourself from not taking the other choices. You will eventually forget to live and start to doubt where the way leads. You will be filled with sorrow and you’ll look at everything as a wasted time.
But what if I tell you, all of it is meant to happen? All. That includes the crying, trying, failing, hardships, persecutions, brokenness…all. And that makes the choice you thought was wrong to be something that is meant to happen.
In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps. -Proverbs 16:9
It might be a fact that is hard to accept for some. You might think that a loving God cannot do some harm to His people. But how do you measure God’s love? Is it just by the number of blessings you received? Does that include the number of times He disciplined you through the hardships that came to your life?
We sometimes forget that a Father only disciplines His children. He cannot correct the child of other fathers. His concern will only be in his family and not for the other families. That fact also stands true in us. When hardships come, think of it as God’s way in disciplining us. It’s His way of reminding us to humble down and consider this world not our home. We cannot measure His love in material blessings for His kingdom is not of this world. And most of all, we can never measure His love because even the message of love shown at the Cross is already difficult for us to grasp how much loving our God can be that He can gave His Son as a ransom for many.
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by Him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves,and chastises every son whom he receives.” It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. -Hebrews 12:5-8
If God is a God of order, He will never leave our fate in this world as something that is up to us. Because if it was all up to us, we will live this world without knowing Him. All our ways, decisions and plans should be aligned in His choices. Because He is God, what He ordained to happen will truly come to pass.
So shall My word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty,but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. – Isaiah 55:11
But are we to blame God when everything in our life seems wrong? Do we have the right to get angry at Him for all the decisions He made? Truly, we don’t have the right to blame Him. For His ways are higher than our ways, and our thoughts of the outcome of everything that has happened is not necessarily the same on what He is thinking. All things work together for good for those who love God, and that includes all the problems you’ve faced.
When we start to depend on our decisions instead of His plans for us, we start to worry because we know that we don’t have the power to make all things happen.
Remember the times you planned an activity outdoors and you expect to have a good weather but God has other plans so He let the rain fall. Our lives are also like that. There are many instances in our lives that our plans were not met. Not because we don’t have enough faith in ourselves or we didn’t try to make it happen. It’s all because it’s not God’s will for you. It is never meant to happen.
The choices we make may show us that we have the power to choose the course of our lives, but actually it is foolish for a person to believe that his life is in his own hands. God is sovereign. He controls everything even on what we do in our lives. He writes the story and directs it to make all happen according to His plans. And His children delight in that power. All we have to do is depend on His will for us.
That makes all our lives not a product of a blind fate or product of the hands of merely humans. We don’t walk these lives with endings that are not yet made. God is always a thousand steps ahead of us. He knows all that is to come. He numbered all our days here on earth. And He knows so well how it ends.
So, don’t pressure yourselves in taking the best choice based on the standards laid by the world. God is the God who controls everything, so pray for discernment for you to know His will for your life.
And most of all, there is nothing to worry and even regret in the choices you’ve made and you will make as long as you’ve done those things in God’s guidance. The road ahead of you may be a rocky one, but remember that He will always do what is best for you. Not necessarily the definition of ‘best’ in this world, but absolutely the best He wants us to be in His Kingdom.
Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny. -Ecclesiates 6:10
Don’t lose hope. You are never walking in a blind fate.
God bless you reader.
Glory to God alone.
Our lives are neither the product of blind fate nor the result of capricious chance. Every detail of them was ordained from all eternity and is now ordered by the living, reigning GOD. Not a hair of our heads can be touched without His permission. “A man’s heart deviseth his way, but the LORD directeth his steps” (Prov. 16:9). What assurance, what strength, what comfort this should give us! “My times are in Thy hand” (Ps. 31:15). Then let me “Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for Him” (Ps. 37:7). -A.W. PINK